I'm 44 reaching 45 years old this year, male, Chinese, Singaporean by birth, and completed NS. I am single and unmarried though my last girlfriend lasted for 14 years before things waned and we went separate ways. I am not seeking a new relationship because I am diagnosed by IMH with mental illness and I don't intend to have kids less I pass my faulty genes to them at my middle-age.
To me, the IMH diagnosis is like a life sentence and / or a cancer, I'm supposed to go back to IMH and stay on a daily prescription for the rest of my life. Since the psychiatrist has determined that I probably inherited my faulty genes from my father and paternal grandmother, there's not much room for me to wriggle other than to accept my fate.
I am not in any debt, I have a younger sister and brother-in-law who already have two lovely kids, so there's no hurry for me to marry or have kids.
For me, I'm a practising Zen Buddhist, so very often I surrender my destiny to the Lord Buddha and participate actively in the local Buddhist community. I am also a half past six grassroots volunteer with the People's Action Party, I'm not very savvy but I do support the ruling party, the party does look after me and ensure that my survival needs are being met.
I don't plan long term for myself, I don't believe in buying insurance just to cite an example, it's a calculated risk because I trust the PAP and Buddha, and therefore pray that CPF is what I have and what I need.
Being a trained undertaker myself, ever since I left the IT industry I have committed my funeral plans to the Singapore regime. For instance, I am still working on my End of Life plans at Life.SG app, and I signed and endorsed an application to donate my corpse to the National Organ Transplant Unit for medical research and training. I am also working on donating my brain matter to Brain Bank Singapore for brain and spinal cord clinical research.
When I die and my cadaver has outlasted it's scientific usefulness, I have willed it to be cremated at a government crematorium such as Mandai, and my ashes will be scattered in the sea, or the newly minted gardens for scattering ashes. I have bought and paid for an ancestral tablet with my parents' and my names engraved and photos printed and hosted at Bright Hill Monastery Pureland Hall.
There are still some logistical details and paperwork to be worked out, but in this reply all I'm suggesting is that I have thought through the process and have started getting things to move proactively instead of waiting for the end to come.
I'm grateful that Singapore is not a corrupt country, so all the plans I made are properly documented and I don't need to fear that there might be last minute hiccups. With this said, I can die peacefully.